|When Jesus saw her weeping and the Jews who had come with her also weeping, He was deeply moved in His spirit and greatly troubled. And He said ‘where have you laid him?’ They said to Him, ‘Lord, come and see. Jesus wept. John 11|
How dis-interesting it really is to have “friends” who are detached from all our feelings. They see you hurt but don’t feel the hurt, they see your pain but refuse to enter into it, they know your situations but avoid involvement til cleaned up and easy to deal with. They give you space when you need them to come close, your words move in and out their ears.
I’m guilty of this. It’s hard to be a good friend. Giving yourself emotionally can be exhausting, taking the time to listen, sharing the burdens that life hands out. Real friends help each other in life, they are willing to feel what the other feels. I laugh when people say they have so many friends that they have lost count, how is it that you have lost count? Aren’t they in your life? How are you to count them as friends if they are not in your life? The apostle Paul recommended we be content with one or two friends, assuming he knew the substance of real friendship involved hard work.
The story before us in John’s gospel exposes the heart of Jesus. Jesus was a good friend, He threw Himself into the death of his friend Lazarus, “He was deeply moved in His spirit and greatly troubled” Jesus does not hesitate to enter in.
Jesus didn’t have to wait to raise Lazarus from the dead, but He found it good and necessary and in doing so exposed His heart, and the fullness on His humanity.
Jesus is a different kind of friend, He’s not the type who avoids your weaknesses, your screw ups and baggage. He presses into your weakness, carries your baggage and dies for your sins. He’s not selective in His listening, rather He gives ear and considers all of your words. Nothing is hidden from Jesus, but His love is full, and His love is involved. What a friend we have in Jesus.